Is Connectedness Necessarily Mutual? Tactics to Turn One-Way Ties into High-Performance Relationships
In our April article, titled ‘Measurable Impact: Turning Trust into Organisational Performance‘, we explored how reconnecting feedback loops through relational strength can transform disconnected cycles into powerful performance drivers. April’s stakeholder-mapping framework added a practical layer, helping leaders prioritise which relationships matter most. This month, we go a level deeper by asking a more nuanced question: Is connectedness necessarily mutual? And if it is not, how can leaders intentionally cultivate the reciprocity required to sustain high performance?
Connectedness – defined as the strength and quality of interrelationships – is not always symmetrical. In many organisational contexts, it is inherently uneven. A mentor may feel deeply invested in a protégé who is less engaged. A senior stakeholder may exert influence without experiencing a reciprocal connection. Employees may show upward loyalty within hierarchical structures without receiving equivalent recognition or engagement in return. These are not anomalies; they are well-documented phenomena in organisational behaviour. Social network analysis, for example, distinguishes between directed ties (one-way connections) and reciprocated ties (mutual connections), reinforcing the idea that asymmetry is common. However, while one-way connectedness can exist, it rarely sustains performance over time. High-performing systems depend on mutuality. Reciprocity builds trust, reduces friction in communication and feedback loops, and enables more balanced and sustainable stakeholder engagement. When connectedness is mutual, relationships evolve from transactional exchanges into collaborative partnerships. Conversely, even strong one-way ties tend to erode. Over time, they create disengagement, weaken feedback cycles, and contribute to the kind of purpose drift highlighted in earlier discussions. To deliberately shift from one-way to mutual connectedness, leaders can apply David Rock’s SCARF model – a neuroscience-based framework that explains how social experiences influence behaviour. SCARF identifies five domains that shape how individuals perceive and respond to interactions: Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, and Fairness. Among these, Relatedness directly reflects connectedness, but the other four domains act as levers that either strengthen or undermine it. Applying SCARF in a practical leadership context allows for targeted interventions: To operationalise this, leaders can adopt a simple four-step practice: Leaders who apply this discipline move beyond passive relationship management. They actively design conditions in which connectedness becomes mutual, resilient, and performance-enhancing. In doing so, they transform one-way ties into high-impact partnerships – unlocking not just better relationships, but more adaptive, aligned, and effective organisations.













